17
Feb
…more on Pretty vs Smart
In reply to miss-r who replied to gauntlet:
The “treat the smart girls like they are pretty and the pretty girls like they are smart” quote blew my mind more in the media/marketing context in which Chartreuse used it as as metaphor. But it does work in an interpersonal way when you apply it more by just noticing something about people that they’re not recognised for and taking an interest in it.
re: the dichotomy - Men are troubled by their own expectations of themselves more than immediate insecurities like looks or smarts. Mid-life crisises are evidence of that. The reaching of an age and then realising all those expectations of achieving big dreams from their youth have not been fulfilled. While my insecurities of not having the wit of a Chaser, the six pack of a Men’s Health cover model, the knowledge of Barry Jones or the charm of George Clooney doesn’t worry me in a finicky manner because there are no instant remedies for any of those. I’d say that women have been sold in their media and marketing messages that there are fixes for some of their insecurities which is why they have more of an affect.
